Why Create Routines?With children, life can get chaotic, but when they get into a rhythm and know what to expect, they are happier and things just run smoother. I also love to have routines so all of the little things that need to get done aren’t forgotten, and it’s an easy way to implement bigger goals into my life and actually achieve them.
What is a Routine?I like to think of habits as the building blocks to good routines, and good routines are the building blocks to peace of mind, better sleep, happier family life, and reaching any big goal. If you’ve read my post about creating habit loops, you know that every habit we have is triggered by a certain cue, and is performed to receive a certain reward. Once you have a good habit built into a habit loop, it’s easy to build off the first habit making it a trigger for another habit, and then another, until you have a whole routine down. For example, I have a habit of waking up at 5 am when my husband’s alarm goes off and he nudges me until I grunt. He gets up to get ready. I sit up and stretch and try to wake up more fully. This triggers a cue for me to use the bathroom. And when I wash my hands, it is a cue to put my contacts in and brush my teeth.
Creating Daily RoutinesWhen I was first trying to implement new good habits into my routine, I built off of my morning routine I had already established. I turned brushing my teeth into a cue to pray and read scriptures. Closing my scriptures is a cue to fire up the computer, open the google document I was working on last, and start writing for this blog. Now, I do this every weekday morning. As I work, I chat a little with my husband as he gets ready. Then, I walk him to the door to kiss him goodbye, then I sit back down to write more. When my kids start waking up, I hop onto my Facebook group and post the daily thread. Then we make breakfast, clean up the table, and get started on home-school. Each habit on the routine is a trigger or a reminder to do the next thing, and it works like this for me all day long, every day. It’s the only way I am able to get anything done. Yes, sometimes the baby wakes up early or I’ve had a particularly long night and don’t wake up when I need to, but this routine is the goal. When I do it, my day runs really well and I’m happier and more productive. Please note, I have not scheduled every last second of our day. Every afternoon I save a couple of hours for flexible time so I can go to appointments, do any weekly meal prep, grocery shopping, reading, or napping- depending on the day of the week. And what I have created is a routine- not a schedule. I can’t be late for anything or penalized if I change something around. It’s just a loose idea to keep me spending my time in intentional ways- instead of wasting it because I think I have nothing pressing to do. And I also am not so rigid that a beautiful day can’t spark abandoning our routine and going to the park to play. It just might mean missing out on doing a load of dishes or folding the laundry. I will happily let that wait in exchange for a beautiful day out making memories with my kids.
How I Created My RoutinesI made a list of all my recurring activities and to-dos and I plugged them into a daily and weekly calendar where it made the most sense to me, while keeping in mind the rhythm of our life already. I was mainly tweaking our routine to help me remember to do things that had been slipping through the cracks. I keep my routines in my bullet journal. Now that I’ve been doing the routines for awhile I don’t reference this page as much because my daily and weekly habits are, well… routine. 😉 And as with any family that changes and grows, so will the routines. Slight tweaks have to happen- especially because my daily routine, as you can see, is very heavily dependent on my baby’s sleeping schedule. As he gets older this will change significantly. If you want to create a routine that works perfectly for your unique situation, get a free preview of the course The Life-Balanced Mom. The Life-Balanced mom will help you to create a routine that balances the every day demands of life and family with your bigger goals- so you can create time for all of it!
Daily Routine ExamplesWhen you google “mom routines” you get a ton of results for cleaning routines. Like that’s all we do?! I dug around a bit to find some better examples that encompass ALL that moms juggle. If you are wondering how moms of all walks of life are able to use routines to help them find balance, check out the links below:
Working MomThe Secrets of Successful Moms: Working Full-Time with a Serious Commute Daily Routines Working Moms Must Have
Work From Home MomDaily Routine of a Successful Work From Home Mom Work At Home Mom Daily Routine: Planned and Actual
Single MomFLYing as a Single Parent (40 Reader’s tips sent in from single parents on how they have used routines to create peaceful homes and stay organized) 8 Ways to Create Balance as a Single Mom
Stay at Home MomRoutines and Schedules for Stay at Home Moms Why a Stay at Home Mom Schedule Matters The Secrets of successful moms: Managing a super-organized home and schedule (with some kids at school and some little ones at home)
Homeschooling MomHomeschooling with a new baby and young kids Creating a homeschool routine with multiple young children Why We Have a Homeschool Routine Instead of a Schedule
Homeschooling Working MomThe Ultimate Guide to Homeschooling for the Working Mom Think you Can’t Homeschool Because you are a Work From Home Mom? A Day in the Life of a Work from Home Homeschooling Mom
Homeschooling Working Single Mom (total props to these ladies!)Tips for single-parent homeschooling Homeschooling and the Single Mom How I Juggle Homeschooling, Housework, and Work as a Single Mom Seeing what other moms can accomplish (and finding balance along the way) is truly inspirational to me, and I hope it is to you too.
Creating Your Unique RoutineIf you are looking at the routines of these moms and telling yourself “I can’t do that because…” remember, it may not be a perfect reflection of their real life. These are their planned routines- their goals of what they are striving to do. Think about what YOU can do. Don’t rely on your excuses and limit yourself to thinking only of what you can’t do. When you take the time to be intentional about how you are spending your time and create a routine to match your goals, you will be able to find balance. No mom is perfect. No routine is perfect. But if you are trying your best, and doing what works for you, you will find more balance in your life. I promise. Would you like someone to help walk you through creating a great personalized routine for you? That’s exactly what my course The Life-Balanced Mom does. This high value course will help you see your big picture intentional plan and create your every-day steps that will get you to the life you envision. The course teaches all the life-balancing time management skills you will need to be able to stay sane and productive as a mom. During the video modules you will make an incredible actionable plan that helps you get all the mom stuff done in your daily life while still being able to work toward your personal and family goals. It’s the ultimate life-balancing kit! Whether you want to be homeschooling mom and an author or entrepreneur/side hustler like me, or if you want to be able to stay present with your kids when you’re not working, or maybe carve out some more time to paint or play video games or even cook more homemade dinners. Or maybe you just want to feel like you are staying on top of the unending needs of home, work, family, and self-care. Whatever is important to you, this course will help you create time for it- while still getting the every day necessities done and being there for your kids too. Ready to create some balance in your mom-life? Click here to get a free preview of the Life-Balanced Mom course now.
This Post is Part of the Habits that Last Series:Create a new life for yourself with less stress.
- Habits that Last: Less Mom Stress is Possible (Series Beginning)
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- 4 Steps to Breaking a Bad Habit For Good
- How a Habit Tracker Can Keep You Motivated to Reach Your Goals (Free Printable)
- 5 Stress-Causing Habits No Mom Has Time For (and How to Stop Doing Them)
- Keystone Habits: Transforming Your Life by Changing the Way you Define Yourself
- 7 Simple Habits for a Tidy, Less Stressful Home
- How to Find Time for New, Good Habits (and Finally Reach your Goals)
- How I Changed My Unhealthy Habits as an Overwhelmed Mom (and You Can Too)
- How Busy Moms Create Balance with Weekly and Daily Routines
- A Morning and Evening Routine that Will Change Your Life